Monday, June 18, 2012

7 days old...6-15-12


Today was a good day besides a little lonely.  I just got off the phone with Jacob and Jason and I miss Jason so very much.  Sometimes I feel like it is not fair that our entire family cannot be together but then I have to remind myself that it is not about me and my wants but about God’s purpose and plan.  All things are good that are according to His purpose.  I long for the day when I can hold both of my boys in my arms while they laugh and play; but I will be patient and wait for that moment.  If I am patient, it will only be that much sweeter.  Both of my boys are so incredible and I am so thankful that I was chosen to be their mother.  I am also very thankful for my lifelong soul mate to share in the experiences of life.  Without Jacob, my life would be so much harder.  He is such a loving and supportive husband.  I truly am blessed.   Today in my reading of The Purpose Driven Life, it discussed how we were created for eternity.  We have a longing to live forever because we were created that way.  This life is only to prepare us for eternity.  I know that God created Jordan with that longing for life because he has been fighting for his life since he was born.
There are many developmental issues that can occur based on prematurity.  While I was reading about them today on the internet, I came to the conclusion that many of those things, besides possibly being time consuming, are not really that difficult of a burden to bear.  I don’t think I would have had those same thoughts even two weeks ago.  I think now that I am faced with the situation of having one or more of those as a possibility; I am more willing to take on that challenge out of love.  I know that God has been preparing my heart for quite some time for this particular moment.  I cannot believe that my sweet baby boy is a week old.  I never would have imagined that his life would have changed my life so much and so quickly. 
Jordan is doing well today.  He is still recovering from his surgery.  With the PDA, the blood was flowing in an irregular path.  Now that the PDA is fixed, his blood is flowing in the correct path that it should.  This change was very sudden when they clipped the PDA during surgery that now his body has to adapt to the new pattern of blood flow.  His heart is used to having a much greater volume of blood in the right ventricle and in order to not cause too much stress on his body, he needs to adapt to the change slowly.  To add more volume to the blood, they are putting water through his IV.  This is allowing the heart to feel as if it is fuller to gradually change to the normal blood flow pattern.  One problem is that the sedation during the surgery had a greater effect than expected so his body is still heavily sedated.  When the body is sedated, the veins are very open.  This is causing water to leak from his veins into the tissue right under the skin.  As his sedation decreases, the water will go back to the veins and he should be fine.  The worry is that this adaptation is a big process for such a tiny little body.  He only weighs a little more than 12 ounces.    The adaptation should take one to two days.  We are praying that God would have his hands on our boy like he has from the beginning and allow for a smooth transition.  We are so thankful that God placed us where we are because the doctors work very hard and are passionate about helping Jordan.  They have his and our best interests at heart.
The nurse had mentioned that another baby that she had seen that was similar to Jordan was in the NICU for 6 months.  I was really shocked by this.  I expected 4 months for sure because that is how premature he is but I did not expect 6.  Of course every baby is different and this is based on the baby rather than a specific time frame.  I am confident that God’s timing will be perfect for Jordan and for our family.  I realize that I don’t really know that much about preemie babies and the processes that they have to go through and overcome and then the adjusted development after.  It seems crazy to me that my 4-6 month old may still be in newborn size diapers.  This will be a learning experience and I pray that God would guide Jacob and I along this path successfully and help us to be the best parents possible.
Premature babies usually have undeveloped intestines.  Nutrition and intestinal circulation is the next step for Jordan to overcome on his path toward health.  Because of the undeveloped intestines, breast milk is very important for preemie babies.  I have been pumping since I gave birth.  I will be renting one of the hospitals machines to pump with because they have the best in the world type of pumping system.  It is very expensive to rent but it provides stimulation as well as pumping.  The main concern is that my milk would stop before he could drink it.  Because of this concern, I have to be very diligent at pumping regularly and using the best equipment.  I am praying that God would help me with this discipline and allow there to be no issues.  I have a few minor concerns such as scheduling my pumping around my visits and driving.  Also, I have to keep the milk completely frozen as if a block of ice for an hour and a half car trip.  I am slightly nervous about that.  The cost is also great because of the pump and the bags but I am confident that God will provide.
My own condition is greatly improved.  My blood pressure is still high and I will be on blood pressure medication for a few more weeks to a month.  I am not sure why my blood pressure is continuing to be high but I am going to take as many personal measures as I know how.  I would like to increase my healthy eating and slowly get back to exercising.  I really need to get to a healthy weight and maintain a fitness routine.  I also need to ensure that I am drinking enough water both for my own health and to keep up with producing milk.    My release date is on Sunday…in two days.  Tomorrow Jason will come up to visit and then Sunday I will leave.  Monday I will drive up and visit Jordan.  My schedule for coming up to the hospital is going to be Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday.  Probably occasionally some Sundays when I really feel like spending time with our boy.  I wish I could come up every day but it is expensive to drive every day and the tolls are expensive as well. 
Jacob had a meeting with his first shirt today so tomorrow he will probably tell me everything they decided with him going back to work and such.  Our church as set up a program where people will be bringing us meals Monday, Wednesday, Friday , for the next two months.  I am so thankful for Calvary Baptist Church and I know that God placed us there for this reason so that they would be our home away from home. 
Being in a Japanese hospital is very different but also it can be entertaining at the same time.  We often laugh about little incidents that happen throughout the day with the language barrier and cultural differences.  Yesterday Jacob was lying in my bed and I was standing at the suitcase getting something out of it.  The doctors walked in right at that moment.   For some reason, they always come in a big group twice per day; once in the morning and once in the evening.  Usually there are at least three and sometimes up to five and six of them that all come crowding into the room.  Anyway, they walked in and saw Jacob lying in the bed and said “Oh, she turned into man!” LOL.  We all had a pretty good laugh after that one.  I am so thankful that we are still able to laugh and enjoy ourselves.  Without laughter and happiness, life is void.  God wants us to be happy and not to worry about things.  He has them under control.  I am surprised that I have been relatively calm about everything.  I know this is also Gods hand over me and showing me that when I trust in him, His plans are perfect.
Lord, I just want to praise your name and thank you for your awesome power and great miracle that you are performing in front of our eyes.  We are so thankful for answered prayers.  We have been so blessed in this entire experience.  I feel like my relationship with you has grown in many ways.  I have learned to rely on you and take the day moment by moment.  I have learned that you have the details under control and don’t need my input to make them happen.  I have learned that you are a Great God of love and power and that you love your creation so unconditionally.  Lord I want to thank you for having your hand of protection around Jordan.  I know that you have chosen his life for great purpose and have chosen us to be his parents.  Nothing has been a mistake but has all been part of your perfect will.  Lord I ask that you would continue to watch over Jordan and infuse him with your strength.  Give him the strength to overcome these obstacles and be a living testimony to your miracle and power.  Help us to reach many with his story.  Lord I ask that you would allow his body to adapt to this new pattern of blood flow and help his body return to a stabilized state.  I ask that you would allow him to come out of the sedation so that he may retain the water in his veins and cause no issues toward his body.  I ask that you have your hand on him for the next step of his process.  Allow his intestines to begin working properly and allow him to keep up his nutrition so that he may grow and develop into a strong and healthy being.  Lord I ask that you would be with Jason as he is doing so well with the crazy situation of not being with mommy all the time.  I feel like your processes of the many separations we have endured while being in Japan, have helped Jason to adapt well to change. I am very thankful for this.   I also want to pray for Jacob.  Thank you for his loving heart and supportive attitude.  Thank you for his unconditional love that he shows me regularly.  Please bless him and allow him to also lean on me and not feel obligated to constantly hold on to my burdens.  Lord, I want to also pray for myself.  Allow me to not worry about small issues and lean into you for strength when I am feeling week.  Help me with my discipline to many tasks including time with you, pumping, housework, etc.  I need to be effective so that I can sever my family in the best ways possible.  Lord, I wanted to thank you for giving us a huge surrounding body of godly friends and prayer warriors.  Without their support, this journey would be much more difficult.  Lastly Lord, I want to pray for the brand new mother in the room next door and her sweet crying baby.  I know she must be stressed as she is trying to calm her new child but just bless her and help her to feel the full effects of love.  Praise your name for that baby’s health and wellness.  Lord thank you for your grace and loving kindness.  Without those things, our world would be much different.  I ask all these things in your name lord, Amen.

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